After another particularly rough week, was pleasantly surprised to receive blackball from steph on friday evening and a coffee/cocktail from my sister on saturday. Feel like circuit breaker has badly shrunk my social network but very thankful nonetheless knowing that there are always going to be constants in my life who care for me and who I can rely on to spur me on to be a better version of myself.
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Last week the sister heard about my stressed state and decided to check in on me over the weekend; sharing what her experience was like when she first started at her job in the conversation that followed. I guess there’s comfort to be found in knowing that the struggle with long hours and constant stress is a common one everywhere and this is probably just another facet of this whole adult life thing that I’m still not that good at. Knowing that these difficulties aren’t going anywhere, that everyone faces them at some point kind of gives me hope that it will get better – not in the sense that these problems are all going to go away when I get better at this job or when I leave to find another one (as i’ve been naive enough to think this whole time), but in the sense that i’m eventually going to become a well adjusted working adult dealing with these problems in a well-adjusted way just like my sister, and just like everyone else.
The conversation with the sister really helped fix my perspective as well, or least made me aware of what my perspective should be. I’ve been looking back at the past way too much lately with this sort of tunnel vision (circuit breaker isn’t helping with this), constantly wishing I could relive those better days while blind to the fact that there’s a whole life ahead that I’ve yet to live, that youth is not all there is to the human experience. As good as they were, those days are nothing but memories now but my sister’s life is a kind of reminder to me that there is still much to look forward to. I know it for myself, I know there will be better times ahead. Chin up, keep moving forward.
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Last sunday night I vented all my frustrations to steph who remained silent on the other side of my screen, patiently absorbing every bit of my monologue. The whole time I was expecting that you’d say something at some point, but after 7 years 9 months of dating some things still take me by surprise I suppose; like when I hear for the nth time how you don’t like X food, or marvel at how hearing the same up key for the nth time could possibly get somebody so excited, or forget about just how good a listener you are. Which is why when I had said my piece, I was genuinely taken aback as you began to recall and respond to every single one of my points, even those I would probably not even have remembered talking about. I genuinely felt better after that call. Sometimes I feel like you know me better than I know myself; I know I can always count on you to call me out and bring me back to the ground when I get carried away. There are many reasons for me to love you, and on most occasions I struggle to articulate most of them, but the next time you ask me to list them out and I forget to mention this, do me a favour and remind me that I wrote this post.
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I know everything’s gonna be alright.